This series has been written by a divorcee, by a man whose success in love and loving is limited. My right to give advice is questionable. The act of doing so is not only ironic, but also somewhat humorous. I say all that, not to shame myself, but to assure my reader that if I speak … Continue reading Foolish Wisdom Part IV: On the Folly of Advice
It can be easier to point out problems, rather than solutions. To discover healthy spousal love is to discover something so complete and complex that a list of rules will never do. In fact, rules can be a serious stumbling block, just as emotions. If someone were to ask me about love, I might point … Continue reading Foolish Wisdom, Part III
The last post can be summed up in this: Do you think your spouse is lucky to be getting you? Are you the great catch? Or do you feel gratitude, lucky, glad that your spouse is somehow willing to marry you. That the king knew it was a blessing to him to be with the … Continue reading Foolish Wisdom, Part II
What I want to express is something very difficult, not only because it is something beyond my grasp, not only because it is something I do not possess, but because it is part of the mystery of love and therefore the mystery of God. In the previous post there is one expression of this kind … Continue reading Foolish Wisdom, Part 1
THE PLUSH USURPER THERE was a knock at the King’s study door. The King looked up from his plans for the new municipal washhouses and sighed; for that was the twenty-seventh knock that had come to his door since breakfast. “Come in,” said the King, wearily. And the Lord Chief Good-doer came in. He wore … Continue reading The Plush Usurper by Edith Nesbit
The dangers of romance are obvious: the feelings don’t last the experience is often accompanied by self deception It can be an excuse for all kinds of harmful behavior But lest in avoiding one evil we commit ourselves to a greater one, romance should be given its proper place. The calculation of self-interest is more deadly to the soul … Continue reading On Romance & the Spouse
There is no easy way to pick out a husband or wife. The very idea of ‘selection’ is problematic. For some it is simply a matter of romance. In which case, the selection problem is avoided. It becomes a matter of emotion and connection. And while romance can get short shrift, there is something deeply … Continue reading On Selecting a Spouse…or a Car.