In the film Moonstruck, Loretta’s mother Rose questions her daughter about her fiance. Their attachment is lukewarm and has an air of convenience and inevitability: Rose: You’re not going to marry him…Do you love him, Loretta? Loretta: No. Rose: Good. When you love them they drive you crazy because they know they can. By the end … Continue reading The Problem and the Promise: Love Hurts
This series has been written by a divorcee, by a man whose success in love and loving is limited. My right to give advice is questionable. The act of doing so is not only ironic, but also somewhat humorous. I say all that, not to shame myself, but to assure my reader that if I speak … Continue reading Foolish Wisdom Part IV: On the Folly of Advice
It can be easier to point out problems, rather than solutions. To discover healthy spousal love is to discover something so complete and complex that a list of rules will never do. In fact, rules can be a serious stumbling block, just as emotions. If someone were to ask me about love, I might point … Continue reading Foolish Wisdom, Part III
The last post can be summed up in this: Do you think your spouse is lucky to be getting you? Are you the great catch? Or do you feel gratitude, lucky, glad that your spouse is somehow willing to marry you. That the king knew it was a blessing to him to be with the … Continue reading Foolish Wisdom, Part II
What I want to express is something very difficult, not only because it is something beyond my grasp, not only because it is something I do not possess, but because it is part of the mystery of love and therefore the mystery of God. In the previous post there is one expression of this kind … Continue reading Foolish Wisdom, Part 1
There were days I made them laugh. There were days I could barely get a snigger. I was the star or I was the dark space between. Was it the shirt I wore? Was it my haircut? Was it my delivery? My desperation? Like Katie Perry’s Hot N Cold, I couldn’t find my place in the world. … Continue reading Putting Away the Magic Arts
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